With older generations, it may seem odd that teens are having these “acting out” stages of their lives. It usually means they are struggling either with personal or peer issues. For this generation, searching for a career path or thinking about starting a family isn’t as common as it was in the early 1900s. Today, teens struggle with a unique set of problems that could be making them display worrisome behaviors. As a parent, it is your job to worry about your child. You want to know what is going on in their lives but they may be shutting you out. Instead of blaming their behavior on hormones, here are some problems they could be facing.
Elementary school, middle school, high school, college, even in work-life cliques can form. It is difficult to go through life thinking you aren’t accepted by a certain group of people. For a teen, it can be more difficult since they are still maturing and don’t have the perspective that there are others who will accept them. As a parent, you may just need to show your child that you will accept them and that you are open discussing things with them no matter what the topic is.
Teens face a large number a stressors from school, peers, if they’re involved in an extracurricular, and more. They could be struggling with a project, fighting with a friend, and practicing for the championship game all in one week and don’t know how to express their stress in a healthy manner. Teaching them how to manage their stress and giving them outlets to release their stress can avoid behavioral problems in the future.
Bully remains an issue in 2019 even with the eruption of anti-bullying programs. Peers can be tormenting each other on a daily basis and it can cause children to seclude themselves from others, develop mental health problems, and, sadly, lead to suicide. Parents can work closely with schools to ensure the issues are being dealt with. The best way to help your child is going back to the first point. Acceptance. Let your child know that you accept them, that you love them no matter what. This can create an atmosphere where your child can come to you and tell you about their problems and what they are struggling.
This is where acceptance can come into play again. Teens want to be accepted by their peers which can lead them to do things they typically wouldn’t. Peer pressure is as big as an issue as bullying. Teens can be peer pressured into trying alcohol, drugs, and committing crimes. They believe that participating in these acts will gain them acceptance among their peers. This can lead your child to have behavioral issues, struggle with addiction, or lead to trouble with the law.
It’s hard to help your child who seems to be going down the “wrong path.” It is difficult to know the line between helping your child and trying to control them. Some situations may not need you to take charge and fix. You might just have to be there to support your child and make sure they know you are supporting them to make the right decision.